So Vogue 8751, we meet again. After the last attempt I did a bit of reading up and found Colette Patterns Pants fitting cheatsheet
So I ended up doing a 2" full butt adjustment and a 1" flat tummy adjustment. Plus I got rid of the side seam pockets and drafted my own. I found with my Bella Jeans that if the pockets are straight across they don't gape
All in all I'm really happy with them and I know I'll be sewing them again!